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Finding the Sweet Spot in Dialogue Writing
by Staci Stallings

Over the years I have heard complaints from various quarters -- friends, students, and family -- that even if they could write the story they’ve always wanted to tell, they could never get the dialogue to "sound right."

This problem is common among writers and lends itself to few easy answers; however, understanding the different modes of communication used to write exceptional dialogue can help even novice writers overcome this obstacle. To write dialogue, four main modes of communication must dovetail for the piece to sound believable and honest. The four are: Writing, Reading, Speaking, and Talking.

To those of us who are writers, the first mode of communication seems almost second nature. We put words on paper a million times a day for no other reason than we simply must. We are called to it.

There are others, however, who do not share this passion. I encountered many such "non-writers" when I taught high school English. These are people who only write only when a guillotine (or a grade) is hanging over their heads. They write not because they want to but because they have to. Nonetheless, it is from them that I learned something very important to my own writing process: GET IT DOWN! Many of these students would sit for hours saying things like, "But I don’t know how to say it right!" Some of this I realize is simple procrastination, of which even the best writers are guilty at times; however, it isn’t always that simple.

A high school classmate of mine went to the same college as I did, and he called me one evening in a total panic. He had a paper due in two days that would constitute half of his overall grade, and he was positive he was going to fail it. When I read the paper, it was obvious that although he probably wouldn’t fail, his grade point average was in considerable jeopardy. After reading the paper, I laid it aside and asked him to tell me what he wanted to say in the paper.

He proceeded then, in actual English, to tell me exactly what he thought about the poem in question in a rather in-depth fashion. After he finished, I said, "So, why don’t you just say that?" Immediately, he went on the defensive and replied, "No, she wants an English paper."

That was to be my first encounter with "English paper phobia." This phobia inflicts writers when they believe they have to make their prose sound verbose and complicated in order to impress whomever it is that is going to read it. Let me assure you -- nothing could be further from the truth. I would much rather read a paper with simple words and an unencumbered structure than one in which the writer is trying to "impress" me.

So, first of all with dialogue, don’t dwell on getting it perfect, listen to it in your mind, and write it on the paper. That simple.

The second form of communication a writer must deal with is reading. This is the step that novice writing students invariably skip. After getting their words on paper, they run as quickly as they can to the teacher’s desk and fling the paper at her so they don’t have to look at it again (and many of them, I have to say, do this for good reason). I have told countless students, "If you don’t want to read it again, what makes you think I want to read it at all?"

Once you get your thoughts on paper, there will without question be something that needs changing -- hence the need for editors. Going back and rereading what you have written comprises an important step in the process because reading is simply not the same as writing. Many times I have gotten the words on paper, whether it be dialogue or simple prose, and when I went back and reread it, it did not make the same sense it did coming out of my head.

One of the main problems with converting writing material to reading material is timing. Especially in dialogue, timing is essential because the reader needs to "hear" the rhythm of the speech pattern. There are writers who add he said/she said to every quote because they believe it’s not a quote without it. Not true. Every break in dialogue whether "stage directions" or a simple he said/she said must have a defendable purpose. Furthermore, every break must serve a purpose on both the written level and the readable level.

On the written level the author may want to convey how the character says the dialogue, or what they are doing while they say the dialogue, or the reaction of the person hearing the dialogue. The placement of such information can make or break a dialogue section.

For example, take two lines of dialogue:

"Well, I just don’t know right now. Can you come back tomorrow?" she asked.
"No, I need an answer now, and I’m not leaving until I get one," he said.

Copyright © Staci Stallings

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